taz needed a sister so...

[Tink]

please meet tabitha, our shelter rescue from today. she was previously abused but her foster mom got her playing and happy again...she is very sweet and playful and two years old...enjoy.

[Mags]

What another little cutie

Good to see her making friends with Kuan Yin ....... how did the introducing with Taz go?

[babycakes]

Wow she is lovely. So what is in your household now Tink??

[angieh]

So you're a ferret whisperer too Tink?

[Moli]

She is just a little darling, how is Taz taking to her??

[Tink]

Originally Posted by angieh

So you're a ferret whisperer too Tink?

considering i have three wounds in one finger at the moment, i wouldn't go that far yet
get back to me in a week or two..we'll see...LOL

[Tink]

regretfully, tabitha is not settling in quite so well. i talked to her foster mom and found out some issues i was not made aware of...she has bitten me to the bone several times..even when i am not trying to handle her..if i sit in the same room she bites repetitively drawing blood till i leave. i am bringing her back to exchange her for another rescue as she was still on trial period. been sick over this the whole week with guilt, regret, and sense of failure. i could work with her if i didn't have so many others to rehabilitate and didn't know i was taking on such a severe case..it really breaks my heart...but i need to do it for the good of the family...bringing her back sunday night..then i will not have tabitha anymore

[babycakes]

Never mind Tink you tried and that's the main thing. Maybe Tabitha is not happy in such a large household of animals?? this could be adding to her distress so you will be doing the right thing to return her. You should have been given all the facts prior also so that you could make an informed decision. Don't beat yourself up you can't save the world in a day but you are doing your bit X You know where I am if you need to talk

[Tink]

thanx..i'm scared i'm gonna lose it and breakdown at the shelter when i bring her back..hopefully the happiness of holding the new rescue i take in will overpower that...it's so embarassing for me to cry in front of other people..i'm so anxious to get it over with cuz i'm so scared of my emotions..guilty i took home someone i couldn't handle..what it'll do to her to have another home reject her..etc....i just didn't want to take on such a severe case at this time..as you know i have a houseful...and yes, they didn't really tell me all the facts..of course in hindsight everything is 20/20...just feel like a failure..thought i was doing something good by adopting from a shelter...now, i feel like i just added more stress to this fuzzie's condition i have another week in the trial period left but i don't want her to be too accustomed then uprooted..i'm hoping it won't be too hard on her

[babycakes]

The added stress is the rescue centres fault not yours they should have ensured that the new owner knew what they were taking on.

What's the worst that can happen Tink if you cry in front of someone? That they will take pity on you, laugh at you? You can't possibly assume what other people's reaction will be we can only pattern match with a previous stressful event of someone not handling us properly when we were upset. I'm not trying to minimise what you feel but you are giving it too much power therefore it is controlling you.
Your emotions are there for a reason and when we suppress them we add to the stress and make the emotions overwhelming. My guess is that you are trying to be strong all the time for everyone. Being upset is not a sign of weakness it a show of a very strong person being able to let go when they need to.
I have every faith in you. Go with your feelings at the time.