Scary or what? Poor family
If I can go back to the title of this thread - Have you ever had a 'Damascus' moment, when you realised the truth of Kazz's advice? I have. I remember it distinctly. I could even give you the exact date, if I went off to google. It was the day (night actually) just before one christmas when the plane fell out of the sky onto Lockerbie. The sombre aviation correspondent on the TV newsflash said 'this is a non-survivable event', the newsreader spoke of people on the ground and I turned to my OH and (using these words, I remember, please excuse me - not my usual vocabulary) ***k me - if you can be killed any day any time, sitting in your house, knitting, cooking, watching TV, wrapping xmas presents, you should live every day as if it could be your last. If you want to do it, and it's even half practical to do it, then do it. You might not be able to tomorrow.
I've tried to live like that since, not to get angry with people, not to harbour grudges, not to put things off and ..... just enjoy life! No pockets in shrouds you know.