Poor G

[Elaine]

He just called me, bawling his eyes out, bless him. He's a big lad, ex army, mans man kinda bloke.
Any way, his long lost daughter has just contacted him via FB. The last time he saw her she was only 3 and now she is 16. Her mother, his ex wife who had duel nationality, ran off back to Ozz with the kids many years ago. Each time she made contact with G, she just played alot of mind games nd never allowed him to talk to Zoe. Long long story but hey, now Zoe has tracked him down and he is just beside himself, bless him.

[angieh]

That's a lot to take on board Elaine. No wonder he's beside himself.

[Kazz]

I am pleased for him, hope it all works out......sounds as if she is at least willing to try...................

[Elaine]

I know. I am very pleased for him. Have just wanred him about getting into any dialogue with his ex, not coz I would mind but because it always ends up in her talking about her and what they had together blah blah. Just mind games and I cannt stand that kind of stuff and it always ends up in him losing contact of any kind with his daughter. An address would be good as they have moved around alot for one reason or another.
I have also suggested that we get our acts together and get out of where we are, to somewhere new and invite her over for a holiday.

[dandysmom]

I can imagine how shook up he is; that was a bolt from the blue. Good idea about the invitation' are you serious about moving after the break-in?

[alexgirl73]

Elaine, I am so happy for him, simply because my hubby was in a very similar position 3 years ago His daughter who he hadn't seen since she was 1, reconnected with him just before her 16th birthday, and they enjoy a lovely relationship now He doesn't speak about her mum and the past at all (even though I have said he should give his side of the story and let her know that her mum holds 90% of the blame), but he's not willing to risk losing that contact. I wish G all the best and hope it all goes well xx

[yola]

Wow, how exciting and daunting at the same time. I agree - take it slowly but there is no reason why they shouldn't have a good and honest relationship, after all she's nearly an adult now.

My OH luckily maintained contact with his children whilst they were growing up and continues to do so - mind you, his ex was big on emotional games too but was always fair with him about his children.

[Moli]

So pleased for G Lainey...hope he manages to meet up at some point...

[Elaine]

Originally Posted by dandysmom

I can imagine how shook up he is; that was a bolt from the blue. Good idea about the invitation' are you serious about moving after the break-in?

Have wanted to move for a while, it's just the financial side of doing up flat and getting it on the market etc etc. We have seriously out grown that flat and need to move on.

[Kim]

I agree exciting, yet daunting. I hope it all works out.