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[Natalie]

That is such a shame Angie. Unfortunately the older generation are not as receptive to change in a lot of cases and like their routine.

Do you have a crossroads charity by where you live?

[angieh]

I've not heard about it Natalie - so probably not. It was a lovely day centre IMO, the staff were friendly and the other people there weren't "ga-ga" and were probably really interesting to get to know and talk to. There weren't loads of people there, space, activities so on. "Not receptive" is actually putting it mildly.

I think she would really benefit from seeing a psycho- geriatician or a CPN, but of course, she won't. There will come a time when we may have to make her do something she doesn't like. It is so difficult to go against the wishes of a parent - OH is really quite upset by his mother's attitude.

[Natalie]

Originally Posted by angieh

I've not heard about it Natalie - so probably not. It was a lovely day centre IMO, the staff were friendly and the other people there weren't "ga-ga" and were probably really interesting to get to know and talk to. There weren't loads of people there, space, activities so on. "Not receptive" is actually putting it mildly.

I think she would really benefit from seeing a psycho- geriatician or a CPN, but of course, she won't. There will come a time when we may have to make her do something she doesn't like. It is so difficult to go against the wishes of a parent - OH is really quite upset by his mother's attitude.

Where abouts do you live Ange?

We had the same problems with my MIL. Very stressful for all parties so you have my upmost sympathy. Maybe the GP can organise a CPN to come and see her at home? Just for a chat?

[Natalie]

http://www.crossroads.org.uk/index.php?mid=2&pgid=20

[Phoenix]

I've been at college today, Dylan's been fighting with another cat (posted on another thread about that though)

[angieh]

Thanks for the link Natalie - we live in the Chichester District and Chichester Health Authority, although our postcode actually puts us in Hampshire!

[Natalie]

Regnum (West Sussex) Crossroads
Second Floor, 76 Bersted Green Court, Hazel Road
Bognor Regis
West Sussex
PO22 9DY
t. 01243 830797
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I think they are your nearest branch. Ask your social worker about them. They provide a carer to look after your MIL while you have some me time. I have used them for 5 years with Millie and we also used them for my MIL. They took her shopping and just sat and did things with her while we had a break.

Worth asking.

[angieh]

Thanks Natalie - I'll tell OH to ask the social worker when she phones. I've made a note of the contact details.

[dandysmom]

Sorry your MIL is unreceptive to the idea, Angie. It would be great if you could get some help with her and manage that way to get a bit of you time for you and your OH. It was dreadful to lose both parents at relatively young ages, but at least I didn't have to go thru the sorrowful process of them losing their facilities bit by bit as they aged. Thinking of you..(((hugs)))

[calismum]

Originally Posted by angieh

Thanks Natalie - I'll tell OH to ask the social worker when she phones. I've made a note of the contact details.

The other thing to ask is for a Carers assessment. Make sure you emphasise your own health and the stress. You are entitled to a copy of your assessment.

Ask for respite services at home under care in the community if they are not offered to you.

Hope something is provided to you to enable you to have some respite.