Abbi
18-03-2004, 04:04 PM
Hi Everyone
This is going to be a long one! :o
Daisy is my oldest cat that I got 11 years ago from a rescue centre (she was 2 when I got her). The day I bought her home she was very scared and stayed under the unit in the front room for hours and hours - I eventually tempted her out with a soft calm voice and some food. This was the start of a lovely relationship.
I lived alone for approximately 1 year Daisy was happy coming and going as she pleased but mostly stayed in with me as a lap cat. She could be unpredictable and every now and again she would swipe out and me with her claws out and scratch and then get off my lap - almost like a "get off me I have had enough". The lad I was seeing at the time moved in and Daisy took to him well and we carried on living as we were - with Daisy giving us the odd tap every now and then! I split with the lad 7 years later and again lived on my own for a while. Until I met my current partner, he used to visit just at weekends. The very first weekend he came to stay Daisy took one look at him and ran a mile! I didn't see her again until he left on the Sunday!
Each weekend was the same which was upsetting as Simon tired so hard to make it work with Daisy - he ignored her, tried to play with her, feed her - nothing seemed to work, it just got worse. Unfortunately for Daisy, Simon moved in with me - This made the situation 100 times worse we hardly ever saw Daisy she would come in at night eat her food, sleep and by the time we got up she would dart out!
We moved house last September and we obviously had to keep her in so she got used to the house. She found a "safe place" in the house and never moved from there while Simon was in, obviously when we were at work she would come and eat down stairs but as soon as we were home she would go back to her safe haven. I eventually let her out and last summer she spent the whole time outside, being fed by myself and my neighbour whenever she was about - I would try my hardest to get her into the house but as soon as she saw me she would run away - because she knew that I was going to bring her in.
We now have a routine sorted out - she still does not come down staris when Simon is home, but will come down to be let out in the evenings and I get her in a couple of hours later, Simon can not make a noise or be seen otherwise she will run off!
The cats have their own room and Daisy has her own window ledge that she loves and her own basket. If Simon enters the room she will hiss at him and back into a corner.
It's very very upsetting for us both and I have exhusted everything to try, I just feel very sad that the last years of her life are going to be spend un-happy and afraid (for no reason at all!!!) I could not bear to give her away and I think this late in her little life would be terribly un-fair after being a rescue cat anyway.
Any ideas - any help would be much appreciated!
Thanks
Abbi
This is going to be a long one! :o
Daisy is my oldest cat that I got 11 years ago from a rescue centre (she was 2 when I got her). The day I bought her home she was very scared and stayed under the unit in the front room for hours and hours - I eventually tempted her out with a soft calm voice and some food. This was the start of a lovely relationship.
I lived alone for approximately 1 year Daisy was happy coming and going as she pleased but mostly stayed in with me as a lap cat. She could be unpredictable and every now and again she would swipe out and me with her claws out and scratch and then get off my lap - almost like a "get off me I have had enough". The lad I was seeing at the time moved in and Daisy took to him well and we carried on living as we were - with Daisy giving us the odd tap every now and then! I split with the lad 7 years later and again lived on my own for a while. Until I met my current partner, he used to visit just at weekends. The very first weekend he came to stay Daisy took one look at him and ran a mile! I didn't see her again until he left on the Sunday!
Each weekend was the same which was upsetting as Simon tired so hard to make it work with Daisy - he ignored her, tried to play with her, feed her - nothing seemed to work, it just got worse. Unfortunately for Daisy, Simon moved in with me - This made the situation 100 times worse we hardly ever saw Daisy she would come in at night eat her food, sleep and by the time we got up she would dart out!
We moved house last September and we obviously had to keep her in so she got used to the house. She found a "safe place" in the house and never moved from there while Simon was in, obviously when we were at work she would come and eat down stairs but as soon as we were home she would go back to her safe haven. I eventually let her out and last summer she spent the whole time outside, being fed by myself and my neighbour whenever she was about - I would try my hardest to get her into the house but as soon as she saw me she would run away - because she knew that I was going to bring her in.
We now have a routine sorted out - she still does not come down staris when Simon is home, but will come down to be let out in the evenings and I get her in a couple of hours later, Simon can not make a noise or be seen otherwise she will run off!
The cats have their own room and Daisy has her own window ledge that she loves and her own basket. If Simon enters the room she will hiss at him and back into a corner.
It's very very upsetting for us both and I have exhusted everything to try, I just feel very sad that the last years of her life are going to be spend un-happy and afraid (for no reason at all!!!) I could not bear to give her away and I think this late in her little life would be terribly un-fair after being a rescue cat anyway.
Any ideas - any help would be much appreciated!
Thanks
Abbi