Someone PLEASE HELP ME PLEASE x

[Emma Badonde]

I have a 10mth ginger kitten who I love to bits but she keeps peeing on my bed, nowhere else just my bed sheets on my bed. I shut the door so she cant go in but stay in a small flat with 2 other cats which are no problem at all roaming around so dont think its fair to lock them all out, plus my boyfriend hates cats and this is the purrrfect excuse for him to get rid of her and leave me heart broken. I also have 3 huge covered litter trays and change them twice a week and clear them from solids everyday. I dont know what else to do. x:( :( :( :(

[Phoenix]

Sounds like she finds your smell comforting and she's trying to mark a bit of territory as being "hers".

How is she with the other cats/kittens? Does she feel threatened by them? Even something like them staring at her could be upsetting to her.

[dandysmom]

I agree with RCR, it could be stress related. Has she always done this or is it a recent development? Any major changes in the household that might have upset her?

[Elaine]

How is your boyfriend with the cats? How are the other two cats with the young one? What I am trying to get at is that if there is any disharmony between any of them, that could be the cause of the stress.
Is there a room where you can confine the youngster to and have a litter tray, food and water there for her and open the house up to her again gradually?
There are also products which wont resolve the problem but may help ease the stress a little, rescue remedy, feliway and Zylkene. Rescue remedy, you can buy in the chemists, a few drops in water or food but for best results, a few drops on finger tips and gently rubbed into the tips of her ears. Feliway gives off natural calming pheramones, can get this in good pet shops, vets or online. Comes as a plug in diffuser or as a spray, diffuser is often the better of the two. Zylkene is a natural food suplement, available from vets or online. Perhaps a combination of these will help rather than just one but the important thing is to try to find the problem that is causing her stress and sorting it out.

[yola]

I had this problem until recently with one of my oldies, he's been increasingly stressed by everything, and as a result has been toiletting on the floor - despite my best efforts.

In the end, confinement in the utility room did the trick. I kept him out there for a few days with his food, water and litter tray, then then started leaving the door open to the rest of the house.

He's come and gone into the room where he used to soil yet now returns to his litter tray out in the utility area.

I would try the isolation for a few days to see it it breaks the cycle for your little kitty.

[Emma Badonde]

Sounds like she finds your smell comforting and she's trying to mark a bit of territory as being "hers".

How is she with the other cats/kittens? Does she feel threatened by them? Even something like them staring at her could be upsetting to her.

Thanx. She is fine with other cats and kittens, shes very clingy and follows me everywhere and sits on my shoulder while im doing the house work, I thought she was mibi trying to mark ME as "hers" but she would go to anyone and any cat for a cuddle.

[Emma Badonde]

I agree with RCR, it could be stress related. Has she always done this or is it a recent development? Any major changes in the household that might have upset her?

She has always been troublesome when she was a kitten with the litter tray but she wasnt bothered where she went for the toilet then, now its my bed everytime. If she doesnt have the choice of my bed she has no problem with the tray lol. oh and nothing has changed in the house, ive booked her in to be spade on friday atthe vets so fingers crossed this is the answer.

[Emma Badonde]

How is your boyfriend with the cats? How are the other two cats with the young one? What I am trying to get at is that if there is any disharmony between any of them, that could be the cause of the stress.
Is there a room where you can confine the youngster to and have a litter tray, food and water there for her and open the house up to her again gradually?
There are also products which wont resolve the problem but may help ease the stress a little, rescue remedy, feliway and Zylkene. Rescue remedy, you can buy in the chemists, a few drops in water or food but for best results, a few drops on finger tips and gently rubbed into the tips of her ears. Feliway gives off natural calming pheramones, can get this in good pet shops, vets or online. Comes as a plug in diffuser or as a spray, diffuser is often the better of the two. Zylkene is a natural food suplement, available from vets or online. Perhaps a combination of these will help rather than just one but the important thing is to try to find the problem that is causing her stress and sorting it out.

Thanx. I forgot about the Feliway I was going to get one before thanxs for reminding me and ive told my boyfriend to lay off them he might be the cause of stress lol

[dandysmom]

I hope the spaying will do the trick; do try a Feliway anyhow, cannot hurt, and please do come back and let us know how things are going, Emma B.

[RFM]

so you are telling your boyfriend to 'lay off the cats'...is he making comments, purposefully making noises that frighten them? If so, this could def. be the cause of the stress for the kitten.

Personally, I'd dump the boy. Sorry, but a love of cats was one of my top priorities when I met my husband as he would have to live with my kitties for the rest of their lives and no way would I tolerate someone that couldn't deal with my cats.

[angieh]

so you are telling your boyfriend to 'lay off the cats'...is he making comments, purposefully making noises that frighten them? If so, this could def. be the cause of the stress for the kitten.

Personally, I'd dump the boy. Sorry, but a love of cats was one of my top priorities when I met my husband as he would have to live with my kitties for the rest of their lives and no way would I tolerate someone that couldn't deal with my cats.

Luckily for me, my OH passed that test! One of the first questions I asked when we started dating - "Do you like cats?" I'd lived all my childhood with my Mum, who loved cats and my Dad who hated them!

[PoshPuss]

I have a 10mth ginger kitten who I love to bits but she keeps peeing on my bed, nowhere else just my bed sheets on my bed. I shut the door so she cant go in but stay in a small flat with 2 other cats which are no problem at all roaming around so dont think its fair to lock them all out, plus my boyfriend hates cats and this is the purrrfect excuse for him to get rid of her and leave me heart broken. I also have 3 huge covered litter trays .... x:( :( :( :(

Emma, sorry to have to ask but if he has told you he hates cats can you be sure he isn't hurting her in any way, :(
if this habit is new it could be she's getting abused.
Sorry to sound alarmist, please understand I'm not being intrusive just concerned for your little kitty. :?

[HappyKatz]

I will try & help you as best I can. It may or may not work :cat27
Stress could be the main issue. Cats do know when someone doesn't like them but with everything, there must be compromise. Your bf needs to relax with her & let this little kitten get into normal litter habits again.
This is just a suggestion, but just try gently placing her in the litter box throughout the day. But you cannot be stressed or angry when you do it because she will know. When she does go in the litterbox, praise & pet her afterwards. If she is comforted by your scent, put a peice of your old clothing near the litterboxes, maybe even an old sheet.
Try anything & everything you can possibly think of. Theres no need to get rid of your little kitten because of this. You just need to find where her problem is whether it is stress or she needs to be retrained to go in the litterbox. :)
Hope you find something that works :cat3 Remember no stress :-P

[random]

Hope you get the problem sorted soon, I have npothing to add that hasb't already been advised but just wanted to wish you good luck.

My b/f (and also my ex) doesn't like the cats either but he would never ever hurt them, he doesn't like them because he has never been brought up with pets and is afraid of them. Mind my lot are of a bolder nature and seem to come over and crowd him just out of spite. :smt043

[alexgirl73]

Also just to add, you are cleaning the sheets etc when she does it, but unless you get the smell out of your mattress, then she will still smell her scent there (even though it may be clean to your nose!)