Tina
02-01-2009, 01:24 AM
Hi folks
I'm really concerned about my father-in-law and just need to get it off my chest, but don't want to talk to OH about it and make him more worried.
We went to OH's parents for Christmas, when we arrived last Tuesday (23rd) father-in-law was feeling quite bad with a chesty cough. Christmas Eve he stayed in bed in the hopes of feeling better after a long rest. That didn't work, he was worse by Christmas Day and couldn't get up to see the family at all......we cancelled Christmas lunch in the hopes of doing it on Sunday to give him more time to get better. Unfortunately, he remained bed-ridden until we finally managed to get a doctor out on Monday morning......when he was sent to hospital with pneumonia. My son and I came home on Tuesday as son has college homework to get done, and OH stayed in Lincolnshire at his parents.
Spoke to OH again today to see how his dad is doing, and he says that he "seems" better, he's eating more, has a bit more colour, coughing less.
However, he won't do ANYTHING. He's always been VERY active and independent, loves to read, listen to the radio, do crosswords, and keeps his mind very active. He won't do any of these things now, no tv, no radio, no reading, no crosswords. He doesn't want people visiting, he doesn't chat when people DO visit. In addition he's starting to have difficulty "finding words".......can't think what he's trying to say, losing track of time....thinks it's night when it's morning, etc. Now, I find that incredibly worrying taking into consideration that he's usually the complete opposite. And also because he is 82. OH is worried as well, but I don't think his mother seems to be as concerned.......and difficult to tell her that she NEEDS to tell the doctor these things without worrying her further.
Just seems so much to me like how my gran was the last time she went into hospital when she was 78.......she lost the will to fight and then developed alzheimers very quickly and never left hospital again.
Just needed to get it off my chest, helps the worry a bit to be able to share it I think, and don't want to add to OH's own worry. Also, my father-in-law's sister is in hospital with similar problems, in another county, and she seems to have completely lost the will to live......she's 94.
Thanks for listening!
Tina
I'm really concerned about my father-in-law and just need to get it off my chest, but don't want to talk to OH about it and make him more worried.
We went to OH's parents for Christmas, when we arrived last Tuesday (23rd) father-in-law was feeling quite bad with a chesty cough. Christmas Eve he stayed in bed in the hopes of feeling better after a long rest. That didn't work, he was worse by Christmas Day and couldn't get up to see the family at all......we cancelled Christmas lunch in the hopes of doing it on Sunday to give him more time to get better. Unfortunately, he remained bed-ridden until we finally managed to get a doctor out on Monday morning......when he was sent to hospital with pneumonia. My son and I came home on Tuesday as son has college homework to get done, and OH stayed in Lincolnshire at his parents.
Spoke to OH again today to see how his dad is doing, and he says that he "seems" better, he's eating more, has a bit more colour, coughing less.
However, he won't do ANYTHING. He's always been VERY active and independent, loves to read, listen to the radio, do crosswords, and keeps his mind very active. He won't do any of these things now, no tv, no radio, no reading, no crosswords. He doesn't want people visiting, he doesn't chat when people DO visit. In addition he's starting to have difficulty "finding words".......can't think what he's trying to say, losing track of time....thinks it's night when it's morning, etc. Now, I find that incredibly worrying taking into consideration that he's usually the complete opposite. And also because he is 82. OH is worried as well, but I don't think his mother seems to be as concerned.......and difficult to tell her that she NEEDS to tell the doctor these things without worrying her further.
Just seems so much to me like how my gran was the last time she went into hospital when she was 78.......she lost the will to fight and then developed alzheimers very quickly and never left hospital again.
Just needed to get it off my chest, helps the worry a bit to be able to share it I think, and don't want to add to OH's own worry. Also, my father-in-law's sister is in hospital with similar problems, in another county, and she seems to have completely lost the will to live......she's 94.
Thanks for listening!
Tina