Unsocialized Bengal

[xkwisit]

I need some advise. I have a year and a half old bengal, Izzy, whom I got when he was 6 months old. Since I got him he was extremely aloof. I have done everything I could to get him to trust and love me from an investment of feliway diffusers thru my house (which didn't work for him) to hiring a behavior specialist to come to my home, to reiki, accupunture and trying to buy his love with food. Nothing worked. A couple months ago he had a major problem with his ear where he ended up having a hematoma that required surgery. After spending 2 hours to try & capture him, I got him to to vet, he had his surgery and I kept him confined to my room while he recovered. During the 2 months I had him in my room he started to come around. He would allow me to pet him or he would pet me. He purred!!! (that was exciting to hear). He would even sleep with me. Everything was grand. He was still slightly aloof and would run and hide everytime we walked into the room but if I got on the floor or on my bed he would come over for lovin'. In an effort to try & reintroduce him to the other cats, I let Chi, my other bengal into my bedroom for the night. They got along great. They played all night.. no growling at all between them. Well yesterday morning he was in the litterbox (which I kept in the bathroom) doing his thing and my boyfriend woke up and went in there. Needless to say this freaked Izzy out and he ran out of the bathroom and under my bed. He wouldn't come to me for anything... he seemed to be back to the old Izzy. He then decided to finish his poop on my dry clean only comforter. I cleaned it up removed the comforter from my room and left the room. Upon my return alittle while later he decided to poop 2 more times on my bed. Thank goodness I have a mattress pad on my bed. I removed the sheets and mattress pad and thru them into the washer and locked Izzy in the bathroom for the day. When I got back from work yesterday I went into the bathroom to see how he was. He came out to me, petted me started purring so I let him back into my bedroom. After I got back from the dry cleaners to take my comforter I went back into my bedroom and he took a 4th poop on my mattress!! Needless to say my BF was not happy, I was not happy and I let Izzy out of the bedroom. I figured he was mad at me because of Chi. I thought maybe he wanted back out of the bedroom. The reintroduction of the cats went very smoothly. But now he won't come anywhere near me again. I have no idea what to do. He was trying to get back into my room but when I go down the hallway to open the door he runs away.

Any suggestions? I apologize for the length of the thread, I don't any other way to explain without getting into all the details from the beginning.

[benny]

well girl you know that some bengals are funny!! My Benny wont come near me, and i have had him for almost a year. He also peed on my purse. I had to hang that up so he could not get near that. I would not let izzy in the bedroom for a while. they like to go on soft things. im sorry i just dont know what to tell you, because i have not been able to woo benny!! Maybe someone else has an answer for you!!