carternm31
25-09-2006, 10:12 AM
Well I am officially upset today…
I struggle to get my cat, Jaffa, in the house anymore, which at first was good but now its worrying me, I’d prefer her to be inside the house at nighttimes, but that’s difficult when you can’t find her. Anyway last week Jaffa came in and she smelt strongly of perfume. I said to my OH I thought it was a lady down the road as this lady keeps telling me how friendly my cat is, over and over. Anyway he told this lady Jaffa had come in one morning smelling of perfume, and she denied down to the ground she ever touches my cat, now my OH was a bit disappointed with this lie as only a few weeks before that he had seen her pick up my cat to show her off to her friends. (This woman is in her 40’s, married and has a dog by the way)
So anyway, then the next time she saw me out she came over and explained that she, and I quote “sprays perfume on her legs and perhaps when Jaffa rubs up against them that’s where the smell comes from” I calmly explained, in no way was I insinuating that I thought it was her perfume, and even if it was her I have no problem with it.
But then it got weirder, she told me that Jaffa and her dog get on so well, and sometimes she feels bad when my cat is pawing at her door to come in. :shock:
I laughed it off, picked Jaffa up and went home… I didn’t think any more of it until last night…
I went outside fairly late with Roxy, about half 11, this woman was also out there with her dog but she could not see me. My cat and her dog were walking around together in the car park and this woman was calling my cat over to her. And she did this I came over and said hello. She looked surprised, I commented on how well her dog and MY cat get along (whilst holding Roxy back from trying to chase Jaffa) As she walked off to go get her dog I called Jaffa over to me, but Jaffa walked up to this other lady and stood on her hind legs as if to jump up.
I almost cried… Jaffa never did this to me, not even before we got Roxy. I picked her up and stormed back into the house. What did I do to deserve this?!?
I have looked after, fed, cuddled, loved this cat for the past 7 years and now she decides to go off with someone else. I feel utterly betrayed!!!
I’ll admit, it probably has been hard for her since we got Roxy as she was starting to get used to being an only cat, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t tried to give her attention. But it’s difficult when she is never around. If she is on my lap asleep I will stop Roxy annoying her, I won’t let Roxy bug her whilst she is eating, and they both equally sleep on the bed (If Jaffa is ever around) I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m thinking of locking her in the house for a while so I can sit there and really get the pets used to each other. And that would also stop the lying woman down the road from winding me up. But I also want her to have her freedom, I’m so confused… any advice really appreciated… however letting her go is not an option!!!!
I struggle to get my cat, Jaffa, in the house anymore, which at first was good but now its worrying me, I’d prefer her to be inside the house at nighttimes, but that’s difficult when you can’t find her. Anyway last week Jaffa came in and she smelt strongly of perfume. I said to my OH I thought it was a lady down the road as this lady keeps telling me how friendly my cat is, over and over. Anyway he told this lady Jaffa had come in one morning smelling of perfume, and she denied down to the ground she ever touches my cat, now my OH was a bit disappointed with this lie as only a few weeks before that he had seen her pick up my cat to show her off to her friends. (This woman is in her 40’s, married and has a dog by the way)
So anyway, then the next time she saw me out she came over and explained that she, and I quote “sprays perfume on her legs and perhaps when Jaffa rubs up against them that’s where the smell comes from” I calmly explained, in no way was I insinuating that I thought it was her perfume, and even if it was her I have no problem with it.
But then it got weirder, she told me that Jaffa and her dog get on so well, and sometimes she feels bad when my cat is pawing at her door to come in. :shock:
I laughed it off, picked Jaffa up and went home… I didn’t think any more of it until last night…
I went outside fairly late with Roxy, about half 11, this woman was also out there with her dog but she could not see me. My cat and her dog were walking around together in the car park and this woman was calling my cat over to her. And she did this I came over and said hello. She looked surprised, I commented on how well her dog and MY cat get along (whilst holding Roxy back from trying to chase Jaffa) As she walked off to go get her dog I called Jaffa over to me, but Jaffa walked up to this other lady and stood on her hind legs as if to jump up.
I almost cried… Jaffa never did this to me, not even before we got Roxy. I picked her up and stormed back into the house. What did I do to deserve this?!?
I have looked after, fed, cuddled, loved this cat for the past 7 years and now she decides to go off with someone else. I feel utterly betrayed!!!
I’ll admit, it probably has been hard for her since we got Roxy as she was starting to get used to being an only cat, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t tried to give her attention. But it’s difficult when she is never around. If she is on my lap asleep I will stop Roxy annoying her, I won’t let Roxy bug her whilst she is eating, and they both equally sleep on the bed (If Jaffa is ever around) I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m thinking of locking her in the house for a while so I can sit there and really get the pets used to each other. And that would also stop the lying woman down the road from winding me up. But I also want her to have her freedom, I’m so confused… any advice really appreciated… however letting her go is not an option!!!!